Bullying Around Us
As human beings, we are created to make the socialization when people communicate with one another in one environment. In this social life such as in family, school or society, humans’ life has imbalance and problem that causing one conflict that the people do not realize it ingrained and becomes a common thing that happens around us that called ‘bullying’. In this essay, I would like to write and try to explain what bullying is.
Bullying is violence, threat and forcing with intimidating someone else continuously. This act not only attack people’s body but also verbal abusive also called as bullying. According to Wicaksana (2008), bullying is the action when someone or one group hurts someone else who seems weak or powerless and making him depressed, injured and fearful. That bullying may happen on the adult to children or we have ever been a bully indirectly because it happens when a bully or abuser feels superior and powerful than the victims who get offended.
As human beings, we are created to make the socialization when people communicate with one another in one environment. In this social life such as in family, school or society, humans’ life has imbalance and problem that causing one conflict that the people do not realize it ingrained and becomes a common thing that happens around us that called ‘bullying’. In this essay, I would like to write and try to explain what bullying is.
Bullying is violence, threat and forcing with intimidating someone else continuously. This act not only attack people’s body but also verbal abusive also called as bullying. According to Wicaksana (2008), bullying is the action when someone or one group hurts someone else who seems weak or powerless and making him depressed, injured and fearful. That bullying may happen on the adult to children or we have ever been a bully indirectly because it happens when a bully or abuser feels superior and powerful than the victims who get offended.
In big points, bullying is divided into two act of violences. The first one in physical bullying, this violence involves hurting the people’s body or physically that makes his body injured, wound and hurt. For the example of physical bullying that happens between the bully and the victim are: punching, kicking, hitting, pulling the hair and other abusive actions that hurting the victims. And the last is psychology bullying. Mental violence can break victims’ defense and psychic and those can cause of the prolonged trauma for the victims. Many cases that we can take an example of psychology bullying such as; insulting, mocking, harassing, defaming, isolating or giving the nickname that the victims do not like so they become stressed.
The bullying is caused by several factors that make someone can be the bully or the victims ; if we look at the victims’ view, the main cause of they become the victim is their looking or style. The cases that happened in Indonesia when some people or students have old and worn-out clothes, wearing glasses or the posture that seems weak can provoke the others’ bad comments especially the bully that look them like the nerdy and is not trendy so over and over a bully invites the other follows (the abuser) to insult the targets.
Meanwhile, in the bully’s side, there are several causes that makes him being a bully. The first cause is personal problems. The victims who have bad problem or record with the bully create a spark of fire between them so that the bully has the reason why they offense the target of bullying without any doubt. The second is the bully ever had the same position as the victims. They attack someone else because they did not want bullying comes to them again, so they try to find the good target to offense before it comes to themselves. The next is they are the attention seekers. The bully is trying to get the people’s attentions in their environment. They abusing the weak victims to prove that they are the best, they are the strongest or they are the most powerful but actually they are just a coward. The fourth factors is lack of emphaty. When someone does not have an emphaty, the act of bullying can grow in their mindset fast. The people who do not have the emphaty must be hard to feel sad when they see the victims get offended and they even feel happy when they see the victims in danger just want to get ‘good news for gossip’ around them. The last cause of why someone becomes a bully is they are from the broken family. This is the biggest cause that makes the children being a bully. The abusive parents toward their children can cause them into the fragile or the abusive children too, the lack of love in their home causing the people become wild, abusive and attack the target or victim in order that the other people around the bully to acknowledge their existence.
If there is a reason, there is an impact felt especially on victims of bullying. This act of abuse creates a profound effect, called; fear. Excessive feeling of worry due to the oppression that befell him makes the victim become afraid to connect with other people. Victims are prone to depression if their fear continues to grow. With a heightened sense of fear, it makes the victim loses confidence. Victims will more often confine themselves and make their home the safest place for him, he is even afraid to step into the outside world because he does not want to get harsh treatment anymore. If that happens to children, usually they don't want to go to school, have trouble eating, have trouble sleeping, the grades go down, cry a lot, even they don't want to go to play because they are afraid of being ostracized.
Losing their self-confidence will make the victim's socialization getting worse, they are afraid to speak, their moods become problematic because they are confused about what they must be because they have been feared with anxiety beforehand so that the reputation of victims in schools becomes less good. As a result of this loss of confidence, they do not know who else to depend on so that the victim dissolves in terror that haunts them.
With those effects that happened to the victims, it can be factor that makes them do the worst possible thing. Too long involved in bullying makes the victim feel even thinking of the of suicide. Many people underestimate that victims who commit suicide are weak people. Even though in the heart of the victim the victim has actually been destroyed. Feeling unable to accept insult and ridicule from the abuser made them insane again so it was better to decide to end their own lives.
It can be concluded that bullying is a cruel act that must be seriously prevented because it can have a long lasting impact on both the victim and the perpetrator. As human beings, we should do good things and be open to each other so that we are not bound by bullying either as perpetrators or victims.
It can be concluded that bullying is a cruel act that must be seriously prevented because it can have a long lasting impact on both the victim and the perpetrator. As human beings, we should do good things and be open to each other so that we are not bound by bullying either as perpetrators or victims.